The idea that Christians must smooch, speak in soft tones, say nice little things in inferior energy and posturing, like a nice little kid, is very very petty. It is not Christian, nor is it sainthood. Jesus was a very powerful man with a tongue used with great range. He called some vipers, others he woed, some he defamed, others he demeaned. But he did not transgress, because the context ruled his tongue, not petty pseudo Christian inferiority dynamic. It is truly tragic that we as Christians are seen as non Christians when weilding the tongue as a man - not to slander, but to teach, to expose, to reveal the sins of others, and to honor the truth and let it roar like an uncaged lion.